Some Men Have Decided Being Single is Better Than Trying To Make Women Happy

Some men may be deciding that remaining single is easier than dealing with the expectations, expense and emotional strain they associate with modern relationships, according to commentary YouTuber Jack Morgan, who used a collection of social-media clips to argue that both men and women have become far more selective about what they are willing to tolerate.

On his Red Leather Podcast, Morgan reacted to women complaining that men are no longer approaching them, clips about financially independent women struggling to find partners who improve their lives, and men describing why they have become reluctant to date at all.

Morgan’s conclusion was not that men have suddenly stopped wanting companionship, but that some have become comfortable enough alone that dating no longer feels necessary.

“Men are done,” one clip declared, while Morgan repeatedly joked that the share of men avoiding dating might be even higher than the statistics quoted in the videos.

The result, he argued, is a strange dating market where both sides say they are doing fine without the other while continuing to complain that the other side is not meeting expectations.

Women Say Their Lives Are Already Full Without a Partner

One of the first women featured in Morgan’s compilation described the frustration of being single while surrounded by women who already have careers, homes, hobbies, friends and travel plans.

She rejected the cultural idea that something must have gone wrong if a woman reaches her early 30s unmarried.

Her problem, she explained, was not an inability to find someone willing to date her.

It was finding a man whose presence would actually improve a life she already enjoyed.

“We are the first generation of women who can genuinely ask, ‘But do I actually like this man enough to build a life around him?’” she said.

That observation gets at one of the biggest changes in modern dating.

A relationship is no longer economically necessary for many women in the way it may have been for previous generations, which means a potential partner increasingly has to offer something beyond basic financial security.

Another woman in the clips made a similar argument, saying she rarely sees ambitious, financially independent women genuinely asking men to pay their rent or fund their entire lifestyle.

She argued that complete financial dependence can create an unequal relationship and said women with their own careers often prefer paying their own way.

Morgan was much more skeptical of women who combine financial success with long lists of expectations for men, particularly when they expect a partner earning far more than they do.

He argued that people can become unrealistic about money once they start earning a comfortable income themselves.

Men Say They Are Setting More Boundaries

Another clip took the discussion in the opposite direction.

A speaker argued that men are increasingly looking for women who are financially responsible, supportive and able to create a peaceful home rather than expecting men to “bend over backwards” to meet every standard.

The speaker framed that shift as men finally setting boundaries.

Morgan largely agreed.

He joked that women often have lists of dozens of requirements while men may have only a handful, but underneath the humor was a broader point that men also want to feel they are getting something valuable from relationships.

Morgan said he believes many men with options are simply unwilling to tolerate relationships they consider exhausting.

That is a broad generalization rather than something demonstrated by the clips themselves, but it reflects the theme running throughout the episode: both men and women increasingly evaluate relationships based on whether they improve life rather than simply assuming marriage is the natural next step.

That can be healthy when it means better boundaries.

It becomes more difficult when the standards on either side become so rigid that nearly everyone is ruled out.

Some Women Say Men Have Stopped Approaching

Another woman in the compilation said she regularly hears women complain that men no longer approach them, plan dates or follow through.

She argued that the dating market may not actually be as competitive as people imagine because so many men are not participating.

Her advice was straightforward.

A man who can confidently approach a woman, speak respectfully, make her laugh and follow through on a date already stands apart from many others.

Morgan agreed with that portion of the argument.

He said confidence can matter more than appearance or money and joked about his own imperfections while insisting that women often respond well to men who simply act comfortable with themselves.

“You don’t have to be the best-looking dude,” he said.

Morgan estimated that a substantial share of women are approachable and relatively easygoing, although that figure was his own impression rather than data.

He also said many women mainly want to feel special and appreciated rather than necessarily demanding extraordinary wealth.

That point was more moderate than much of the surrounding commentary and highlighted an important contradiction in the video.

Morgan repeatedly described modern dating as dysfunctional, yet he also acknowledged that plenty of ordinary women are reasonable and plenty of ordinary men can succeed simply by communicating confidently.

The Appeal of Doing Nothing

One of the more revealing clips involved a middle-aged married woman who described being bored despite having financial freedom, a husband and the ability to do virtually anything she wanted.

She said even her passion projects were not exciting her and joked that getting her nails done had been the most interesting event of her week.

Morgan found that difficult to understand.

He contrasted her dissatisfaction with what he described as one of the pleasures of male solitude: doing absolutely nothing.

For Morgan, sitting at home without plans can be relaxing rather than depressing.

That difference became part of his larger argument about why bachelor life may appeal to some men.

A man who genuinely enjoys his routines, quiet and independence may not see a relationship as automatically better than being alone.

That does not mean men universally prefer solitude, but it helps explain why someone who is comfortable alone may be less motivated to pursue a relationship that appears to come with constant expectations.

There is a meaningful difference between loneliness and solitude, and the two are often treated as if they are the same thing.

Morgan’s argument depends heavily on that distinction.

Morgan Questions Whether Men Still Want Marriage

The video also turned toward marriage itself.

A social-media clip asked couples to consider whether a wedding represents the finish line or the starting line, arguing that women may expect effort to increase after marriage while men may feel the courtship is finally complete.

Morgan agreed that marriage should theoretically be the beginning rather than the end.

But he also said he believes many men feel pressured into weddings and care far less about the ceremony than women do.

“I don’t want to get married,” Morgan said at one point, although he also referred jokingly to himself as “fake married” and spoke warmly about his wife later in the episode.

He said many men would rather simply decide they love someone, stay together and skip what he considers the unnecessary performance surrounding a traditional wedding.

Morgan’s comments were largely personal and comedic, but they fit the broader theme.

He sees modern men as increasingly skeptical not only of dating but also of the institutions and rituals that traditionally followed successful dating.

A Single Mother Asks Where the Relationship-Minded Men Went

Near the end, Morgan reacted to a 23-year-old mother who said she wanted to become a wife but was struggling to find men interested in serious relationships.

Other clips asked where men who genuinely want commitment can be found, noting that dating apps did not seem to be producing those results.

Morgan’s response was that many such men may simply be working, relaxing at home or avoiding the dating scene.

He was also much harsher about single motherhood, arguing that raising someone else’s child can make a relationship less appealing to some men.

His comments were deliberately provocative and often framed as jokes, but his central argument remained consistent: men who feel dating offers them more obligation than reward may choose not to participate.

At the same time, the women in the clips were making almost the mirror-image argument.

They said they had built lives they liked and were unwilling to add a man unless he made those lives better.

Both Sides May Be Making the Same Calculation

That may be the most interesting part of Morgan’s episode.

Men and women are often presented as having completely opposite interests, yet several people in the clips were actually describing the same basic calculation.

Is this relationship better than being alone?

Some women said they already have careers, friendships and financial independence, so a man must add something meaningful.

Morgan argued that some men have reached exactly the same conclusion from the other direction: they enjoy their peace, independence and routines enough that they no longer feel compelled to chase relationships simply because society expects them to.

That does not mean most men have abandoned dating, nor did the video establish some sweeping percentage of men who have permanently opted out.

The much-repeated claim that 80% of men no longer want to date was treated jokingly by Morgan and was not substantiated within the footage.

What the video does capture is a growing frustration around modern relationships, where both sexes may feel that the other is demanding too much while offering too little.

Morgan’s answer is that men should not force themselves into relationships merely to satisfy expectations.

If being single feels more peaceful than constantly trying to make someone else happy, he argued, some men are increasingly comfortable choosing the peace.